Magic Of Making Up: How To Win Your Fiance Back
You’ve been busy planning your big day and looking forward to spending the rest of your life with your lover. Unfortunately your fiance doesn’t have the same plans and he has called the whole thing off. You are devastated!
One of the questions that you may be asking yourself is how to win your fiance back.
Relationships can experience problems, and most of the downs are because of a misunderstanding. So when you are trying to work out what went amiss, here are some clues as to where guys get the wrong idea and end up calling off the engagement.
Many men end a relationship for a reason that seems counter intuitive. By trying too hard to please your man and pandering to his every want, you are selling yourself as a doormat in his eyes.
The plan is to be respectful about who you are, and how you show yourself. That does not mean that you must be dominant or domineering, but that by being someone who respects who they are and their man is how to win your fiance back. Guys do like to be treated well sometimes, but they want women who can stand up for themselves.
Something else that will cause a guy to have doubts is to talk about your ex boyfriends. Men are looking for rivals when they are in a relationship. They are thinking of the other men who are possible competitors to their efforts. When you mention other men that you have seen you are giving your fiance something to compare himself against. Again, this is not to say you should not say anything.
Knowing each others background and personal history is important, you were hoping to spend the rest of your lives together after all. Your fiance knowing that you dated one guy throughout high school and college is important. Telling your fiance that your ex was a football player with 20 awards, his sports stats, where his birthmarks are, etc. is going too far.
Concentrating on any single ex boyfriend will give your fiance the opinion that you still harbour feelings for him. Alternatively, if it is all negative, you will cause your fiance to over analyse himself.
Pressuring your fiance is another way to force his hand and call off the engagement. This includes trying to get him to define his role and analyse who he is and how he feels. guys tend not to like having their feelings challenged, and if he has an idea that is proved wrong, then it can send him packing.
Another thing to cause him to break up is to try to change him.
You can’t.
Guys think that being in a relationship and engaged means that you want him for him. So by trying to change him you are telling your fiance that he has a serious problem. Even if he does not have a problem, trying to change him will challenge his feelings and strip him of who he is. Let him be him. If you need something else, find someone else.
No one is perfect, and no relationship is perfect; but when you are trying to figure out how to win your fiance back, these are steps to make sure you do not scare him off beyond reconciliation.
You can win your fiance back. For a guide really does work like magic read The Magic of Making Up.
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Magic Of Making Up: Secret To Make Your Ex Return Your Call
Are there ‘magic’ words you can use to get your ex to return your phone calls?
Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex
feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?…
I am going to share this with you because this is one of the biggest questions I get from the over 35,000 subscribers just like you that are trying to put their relationship back together.
So I am going to answer…“How do I get my ex to return my phone call, text or IM?”
BUT…
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WARNING!
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In the Magic Of Making Up, I lay out a complete strategy.
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If you use this technique alone, without an ‘overall’ plan or strategy…you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
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What NOT to Say!
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Before we get into the actual words, let’s go over what message almost NEVER works.
and worse…
Puts you in an AWFUL ‘psychological’ position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The PLEAD- Where the message sounds like
“John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you.”
And the EMERGENCY-
“Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this.”
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won’t go on and on…
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How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest
To Your Advantage
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Two of the most powerful forces in the human mind are
*Curiosity &
*Self Interest
And here’s the BIG SECRET!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work ‘magic’
So…
Let’s look at what you can say that works nearly EVERY TIME.
In a friendly tone:
“Hi John. It’s Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person.”
Do you see how that uses BOTH curiosity and self interest?
John will NOT be able to resist! “What did I do?” “What does she appreciate?” he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now…
Before you call you need to do the “Set Up”…which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing…but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly…
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2nd WARNING!
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Please have an underlying strategy like I lay out in the Magic Of Making Up System BEFORE you call.
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If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more
DAMAGE than good if you do not handle it correctly.
Okay?
What I am saying is…
What you do before, during and after you get them to return your call is MORE important than getting them to return your call.
Make sense?
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